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Showing posts from March, 2014

Loss of innocence (Part 4) - The First Kiss

Gay Scene - Some Reflections

Being a gay man, I have some reservations about the gay scene in India and all over the world. First thing is why we gays need to be so campy and flashy all the time. The gay stereotype is all about flamboyance and fabulousness which probably stems out from the extreme depression and frustration of the community. We want to be visible. We want to be taken into consideration. We don’t want to be taken for granted. This show business comes from the subconscious mind which is more like an attention seeking behaviour and this exhibition weirdly instills confidence in gay people; we celebrate our difference. Society tries to ignore this whole hullabaloo with a tin ear for dialogue. In societal dictionary, ignoring is same as tolerance; the fact remains that tolerance is never true acceptance. True acceptance is always feared, as society fear that more and more people will "turn gay" which will eventually tear the moral fabric, the fabric of family set up and finally we will be st…

Loss of innocence (Part 3) - Metamorphosis

Loss of innocence (Part 2) - Rite to "Gaydom"

Loss of innocence (Part 1) - Tribulations

Prejudice is a learned trait. You're not born prejudiced; you're taught it. ~ Charles R. Swindoll

He was a timid boy, reticent, frail, had hopeful magnetic eyes and a disarming smile. He smiled even when his heart sank every moment from the confusion churning inside his little mind. What am I? Why I am not feeling anything to girls like all other guys of his age do? Why I am attracted to boys? Is it normal? He was a boy for sure, by appearance, but with thoughts, was he? He tried to cast off the doubts and suppressed all his feelings. The biggest problem was he knew that he was different from others. Day by day, his mind got clouded, more doubts emerged, old and suppressed ones resurfaced, somehow he managed himself and did not utter a single word about his mental tribulations to anybody else, be it friends or parents. Despite this, he was one among the academic toppers and had a flawless record on his conduct and character, not even a single blemish during his entire school an…

Veiled Life - Living the Lie

As Hannah Montana wisely quotes "Life is a climb, but the view is great". We should climb to enjoy the view. Perseverance is the key to climb especially if it is a precipice. Gay life is like a precipice. Steep, dangerous and unpredictable. Another quote I would like to mention is by the Greek philosopher Thucydides "the secret of happiness is freedom and the secret of freedom is courage". Yes, gay men have freedom from family bonding, kids and related stuff, they have all the time in the world, but do they really enjoy that freedom. Do they live courageously? Some of them do, but many others live a miserable closeted life. 

My hetero friends used to ask me why do you worry so much over this gay thing, everybody is having their own problems, it is not for you only and your problems are not at all different from heterosexual people. But do they really understand the gravity of our problems. Not really. Living a life in fear, living a life in oblivion, living the life…