Just a
day after the horrendous and inhuman Delhi gang rape incident, I was traveling via bus to my work place. It was amazing to see that on that particular day, the ladies enjoyed a rare privilege. Usually when a lady enters the bus, she is welcomed by prying eyes and a mixed bag of emotions. But on that day, men were actually competing for relinquishing their
seats for ladies, chivalry was the only thing in the air, men very
cautious to keep their distance not to touch or everybody was looking
with such care whenever a young girl steps in to bus. Some people even willing
to take their luggage, I was totally stunned to see all this. What a wonderful
world!! After a few days, everything went back to
normal - the usual scanning process and the suspecting
looks.
Another situation you can see while traveling in Kerala is when a mother carrying a child enters in the bus. Usually when the ladies with kids enter the bus, first
they will look at the ladies section with the hope that some other ladies will give them their seats, but in reality it will be mostly men giving them the seats. Now ladies are wise enough not to
enter through the front door (the seats around front door are reserved for ladies in Kerala buses), instead they will enter via back door
bypassing the ladies section. The other "mothers" and
"grandmothers" didn't even care to look at them but they will look at
the men with a question in their eyes "why you guys are not allowing
the lady to sit" and men in question "fathers and grand fathers",
especially those who sit near the door will be enjoying the
scenery (which they will otherwise ignore) or just stare at the lady,
expecting the lady to pass their seat. The lady with the kid will
have to spot a suitable person, better a man, who they believe will stand
up. Usually it will turn up to be some young men, "unmarried
men", yeah, correct choice, they will stand up. Well,
bachelor men/women are supposed to be unruly, selfish and
irresponsible, but in they bus, they are chivalrous than the "unselfish
family men" and women" !!
I have some reservations on why ladies with their kids are entering a
"crowded superfast bus"? They should apply some common sense
there. Most people are long distance travelers in a superfast bus; it is a
herculean task to grab a seat especially at weekend days and they expect
men to stand up under those circumstances let alone the women seated!! Other women also know men will stand up and thus it
is not their duty to stand up. After all most women know the pain of standing with a kid in a fast moving bus and
most of them may have enjoyed the privilege before by grabbing a seat vacated by a gentle man, but still
they don't consider it to be their duty to stand up for their own
species when the need arises. Well, being said all these, there are
exceptions. I have seen some girls instantly giving up their
seats and they are bachelors...........bachelors rock!!!!
I am not a sexist. But I think both men and women have the same resposibility to stand up when a mother carrying a baby steps in a bus. I have relinquished my seat most of the times. I haven't done that when some ladies who carry grown up children just to get a seat. If it is a genuine case, I usually gives up the seat. Not because I consider women to be weak, but I feel that it is the right thing to do, a random act of kindness. Recently, supreme court, the highest court of India, gave instructions for reserving a seat for mothers in superfast buses too. Well, I think that is the best move to ensure that some justice being done to the hapless mothers. But we need to see how well it is implemented.
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