Sex and the Naked Ape

The three letter word "sex" is more important than the four letter word "food", we admit it or not, it is a fact. Every single second, we think about it. Our every move controlled by it. When a man and a woman come closer, the word starts to float around in their minds. Why sex is so important to human beings? During these times, with so much population all around the globe, it is not really the reproductive purpose which comes to the fore. Sages, in Eastern as well as Western civilizations tried to conquer this "feeling" through meditation and abstinence. In almost all monasteries, the practice of celibacy is followed, as if enlightenment and sex are contraindicated.

Sex is considered dirty, at least by some. We use the "dirty body passages" (through which the wastes are excreted) for doing sex. We use all dirty tricks to get laid down. Even murder is on cards when there is competition. We turn ourselves into wild animals, more like a predator-prey relationship, rather than the poetic lovers. Rapes are rampant. Rape is more mental than physical, even otherwise normal people get involved in such "sex crimes", falling for the crux of a single moment. Sex transforms people, into good or into bad.

Looking "sexy" is the ultimate aim. Every body wants to look like "Brangelina". However talented and gentle a person is, without mirror cracking looks he/she cannot make a mark that easy. The sexy look is always over-rated. We automatically form a conclusion that good looking people are talented. Good looks cloud our reason. We know that the looks are totally a gift from good genes, handy work in gyms or manufactured by using cosmetics. Still we fail to see the "real". A good looking person sans any kind of talent can easily get to top. Because it clouds ones judgement. Sex plays in the background.

The book cover of Desmond Morris's Book " the naked ape"

Whether it is a sexy man/woman, or a not-so-sexy man/woman, they all do the "same things" in their "bedroom" according to our instinct. The "bedroom behavior" normally don't differ much, our instincts too are similar although some variations can happen with cultural and social conditioning - we all do it in the same way, the way we are trained to do, the way of our instincts. As Dr. Desmond Morris states "We have the largest brain of all primates but also the largest penis, and is therefore "the sexiest primate alive". Aha, no wonder we are addicted to sex. Dr. Morris wonderfully describes the human sexual behavior in detail in his book "The naked ape"; well,  I am not going into the details. Read the book and you will find out that we are all not that different in bed. :)

Try this article from Dr. Desmond Morris, it is very informative (link).

Just like the protagonist in the TV sitcom " Sex and the city" quips about men, " all cats look same in the dark". Yeah, true. We need to grow beyond the "three letter word".